"If you have an opportunity to use your voice you should use it."
Samuel L. Jackson
Jeremy and I get asked a lot if we are bisexual because of our use of the Rainbow Flag.
Last summer, I got evicted from my family’s property partly since we put it up on their Flag Pole. I was told to take down the ‘fruit flag.’ (I then disowned that side of the family for obvious reasons.)
When I first started building this community, I decided to use Instagram as the primary way to find you guys. I did this for a few reasons. Firstly, I used to teach Instagram courses, so I understand how powerful it can be. Secondly, it has a way of pre-qualifying people that Twitter can’t do. (You see people – their photos, their videos – and you get a much better picture -sorry for the pun – of what kind of nudist they are.)
But the problem with having an open Instagram account is that as a woman, it’s an open invitation for people to abuse the space and send you unwanted DM’s of people’s parts. And if you’re really lucky, you’ll also get abused with words. I finally couldn’t take it, so I shut it down.
I told Jeremy, “If this is what being a nudist is, then I don’t want any part of it.”
I took a few weeks and re-strategized.
I grew up with Prince, Viva Glam, and an obsession with Madonna’s Truth or Dare. I’m no prude, but dude – running around naked isn’t an invitation for abuse. I re-opened our Instagram account around the time of PRIDE and thought, “I need a bold symbol to tell people who we are from the get-go.” I kept the account closed and only allowed those in that I had already pre-qualified from our previous account. This strategy worked well.
We love everybody – as long as you aren’t an asshole.
I’m proud to use a symbol that means equal rights for everybody. And if you have privilege, you should use it for good.
Otherwise, you’re just an asshole. And the world has enough of those already.